Dating and 'family' meals?

[gymgurl]

I'm not sure if this should be more general discussion or nutrition...but just curious, what do you guys do when you're dating someone or going for a meal at a SO's family's place?

A new guy I'm seeing asked me to go to mother's day brunch with his family again, but I'm not entirely sure what'll be served. If it's waffles, pancakes, etc...I don't particularly want to be eating that, but don't want to just sit there not eating anything...

[Blondell]

Did you ask what will be served? How about just having coffee/tea and enjoying conversation?

[gymgurl]

Did you ask what will be served? How about just having coffee/tea and enjoying conversation?

No, I didn't ask what was being served, but I suppose I could do that. I guess I just feel sub-conscious that they'd think I was super high-maintenance. The coffee/tea would work...I'm just not sure what to say when they all ask why I'm not eating.

[pixie]

No, I didn't ask what was being served, but I suppose I could do that. I guess I just feel sub-conscious that they'd think I was super high-maintenance. The coffee/tea would work...I'm just not sure what to say when they all ask why I'm not eating.

You could always say you're following a gluten free diet. That sort of implies more of a health related issue and most people don't blink twice over that stuff.

Hope it worked out for you.

[gymgurl]

You could always say you're following a gluten free diet. That sort of implies more of a health related issue and most people don't blink twice over that stuff.

Hope it worked out for you.

Yah, that's a good idea also, only my boyfriend would know it's not true. I've hinted though that I have issues with carbs and blood sugar (which is true) to kind of ease into the situation down the road.

It turned out it was way earlier than expected and I ended up not being able to make it, so today was averted, but obviously there will be other times. The gluten free diet is a good suggestion, I don't think they would question it.

[Cass]

I'm just not sure what to say when they all ask why I'm not eating.
:unsure:

Um, the truth.

[GraceGirl]

At restaurants, I usually bring my own condiments and either order a salad or an entree cooked to order. Most every restaurant will accomodate your dietary needs.

At a family dinner (and I've done this MANY times since I began my journey), I bring my own food. I'll usually make a big salad so everyone can enjoy it, and then either bring some fish I've pre-cooked at home, or I bring raw chicken to have it cooked on the grill. (They cook alot of hamburgers and hot dogs.) If it's not a grill dinner, I'll just bring a separate meal just for me. Sure, I get looks. Sure, I get comments. But my goals are more important than those looks and comments!

[linnaete]

I agree, just be upfront about your goals and commitments. If they can't respect that, then there's a problem. As long as you don't expect them to go out on a limb to cater to your needs, you shouldn't have to worry about what they think.

[Lynny]

:unsure:

Um, the truth.

that's an excellent idea. :thumb: