Best Advice I got

[colo1278]

My first round of TTC was a bust and everyone telling me the usual "it will take time" or "don't worry it was only your first month" really didn't cheer me up at all.

A highschool girlfriend of mine who has a 6 mo old said the best thing- she got pg on the 5th month and said "I was meant to be Hadley's mom and she was meant to be my child... my first baby. She was meant to be conceived when she was and was meant to be born when she was."

Made me realize that my baby is out there somewhere, just waiting for it's time to be made and I am not meant to know when that is, and it wasn't last month...

anyhoo, thought this might help someone else too. Good baby vibes to all!

[NCfitnessgirl]

Really, you should not be bummed about not conceiving your 1st month of trying. So many things have to be right in order for a successful pregnancy to take place. All the women in my husband's family get pregnant on their 1st month of trying and have a successful pregnancies w/o any m/cs. They really don't know how lucky they are. It's very hard for me not to be envious of their childbearing blessings. It really is a blessing to be able to have children easily.

[Christine_99]

That is so true :). About 2 months before I conceived my son who is now 4, I miscarried. I didn't know what was going on at first and when I realized it really bummed me out. After I was pg and looking back now, if that pregnancy had been viable I wouldn't have my son - I would have a different child - I am just so happy with how it worked out. I love my son more than anything! Getting pregnant most certainly isn't easy for everyone. I think it took us 10 months to get pregnant.

Good luck!

Christine

[colo1278]

Originally posted by NCfitnessgirl@Jun 13 2006, 01:55 PM
Really, you should not be bummed about not conceiving your 1st month of trying.
hi nc...

while I agree that maybe it's not logical to be bummed, and that lots of women take A LOT longer to get pg or can't at all, I think it is okay that I was a little bummed. And I am past it now, thanks to my friend's advice... I know you didn't mean it in a bad way, I just want to say that I think it's perfectly all right if women get a little bummed out. I didn't cry for days on end or anything.

the main thing was my mom got pg with me the first time around, so I wanted to be like her and share that little thing with her, and then my husband and I went hiking as we always do and I felt way more tired than usual, my sense of smell was off, my period was two days late... I just got overly excited.

[trigirl]

Originally posted by colo1278@Jun 13 2006, 08:11 AM
My first round of TTC was a bust and everyone telling me the usual "it will take time" or "don't worry it was only your first month" really didn't cheer me up at all.

A highschool girlfriend of mine who has a 6 mo old said the best thing- she got pg on the 5th month and said "I was meant to be Hadley's mom and she was meant to be my child... my first baby. She was meant to be conceived when she was and was meant to be born when she was."

Made me realize that my baby is out there somewhere, just waiting for it's time to be made and I am not meant to know when that is, and it wasn't last month...

anyhoo, thought this might help someone else too. Good baby vibes to all!
This is so true! I conceived my son fairly "easily", but had 2 miscarriages after him. I am now 32 weeks, and this little girl was "meant to be"! Your son/daughter is out there....just waiting for the right time to make his/her appearance :) It is sad when you get your hopes up, and then are disappointed, but keep trying....this is the year!

[MJJR]

I just wanted to come out of hiding to say that I think what you're saying is a beautiful idea. We tried for 5 months before getting pregnant w/our now 2 1/2 year old daughter, and every day I think of how blessed I am to have such a wonderful child. We recently started trying again after having a miscarriage in March. Very thoughtful advice you've given.

[NCfitnessgirl]

Originally posted by colo1278@Jun 14 2006, 09:30 AM
hi nc...

while I agree that maybe it's not logical to be bummed, and that lots of women take A LOT longer to get pg or can't at all, I think it is okay that I was a little bummed. And I am past it now, thanks to my friend's advice... I know you didn't mean it in a bad way, I just want to say that I think it's perfectly all right if women get a little bummed out. I didn't cry for days on end or anything.

the main thing was my mom got pg with me the first time around, so I wanted to be like her and share that little thing with her, and then my husband and I went hiking as we always do and I felt way more tired than usual, my sense of smell was off, my period was two days late... I just got overly excited.
Hi Colo. Sorry, I didn't mean to sound negative. I know what you mean about things happening when they're meant to happen for a reason. I truly believe that too. I've just found, from my own experience, that if the pregnancy doesn't work, there really is a reason and that God has a reason that we may not know about. :) I really wish you good luck and baby vibes when it is your time! :baby:

[MicheleSC]

Originally posted by colo1278@Jun 13 2006, 09:11 AM
My first round of TTC was a bust and everyone telling me the usual "it will take time" or "don't worry it was only your first month" really didn't cheer me up at all.

A highschool girlfriend of mine who has a 6 mo old said the best thing- she got pg on the 5th month and said "I was meant to be Hadley's mom and she was meant to be my child... my first baby. She was meant to be conceived when she was and was meant to be born when she was."

Made me realize that my baby is out there somewhere, just waiting for it's time to be made and I am not meant to know when that is, and it wasn't last month...

anyhoo, thought this might help someone else too. Good baby vibes to all!
I had 2 miscarriages before we conceived our daughter. I was sad when they happened and a little worried after the second one, but when I knew I was miscarrying each time, I just wanted it over and done so I could move on. I then decided not to worry about it for a while. I could not imagine not having her in my life and that probably would not be if I had carried either of those pregnancies. She is an angel and I feel truly blessed to have her :)
I do think things work out a certain way for a reason...I'm trying to remember that now as my husband just took a job in another state and I might be faced with moving in a year (and I don't really want to).