Hypothetical Q - What happens if...

[dare]

...you don't know you're pregnant & you go out one night and drink?

[Lydia]

I know several people who have unknowingly done this and everything was fine. If it was a one time thing don't stress out about it....the worrying would probably be worst than the drinking!

[PerfectAnjail]

Well, if you don't know you're prego, chances are it's very early in pregnancy. I myself did NOT have regular periods, but I "knew" before I was 4 weeks pregnant. I had already stopped drinking b/c I wanted to compete this year, so this wasn't an issue for me. But I have heard (from docs and moms) that this happens VERY often.

So long as you're not a binge drinker or drink very regularly (hittin up happy hour everyday), it's probably ok. There are no guarantees, but, if I am correct (someone correct me if I'm not) cell multiplication does occur at an early stage, obviously, but it would take quite a bit of alcohol (or any other not-so-healthy behaviour) to seriously effect this.

[fitnesschick]

i think once would be fine. but then again, i guess possibly it might not be fine as well ... lol
it's not something i would worry about unless you were drunk every week-end 2 months straight until you found out.

[liberty]

I say if you are having sex for procreation, act like you are pregnant until you are. That means no drinking and smoking and drugging -legal or not. This way you avoid any one night of drinking questions. Granted some people get pregnant when they are not activly trying but if you are trying that is what I suggest :)
C

[trigirl]

HA! Do you know how many people get pregnant after a night of drinking?? I really wouldn't worry about it. Unless you are "fall on your face" drunk every night, one night of drinkng won't affect your baby. My girlfriend got pregnant after a night out "wine tasting" at the vineyards.....I got pregnant with my first after having 1 too many Mojito's......all babies are fine :baby:

[taniea19]

I don't think it would do anything at all. What hurts a growing fetus is exposure to it repeately. Whne I was abut 3 months I wad 2 glasses of wine on thanksgiving. She was fine.

Tanya

[Patricia]

HI! I was about 2 months pregnant during a Halloween party and had more than a few drinks. I had always been irregular with my periods and hadn't gained any weight yet, so I didn't know.
My daughter is 6 and more than perfect. :)

[Chelsinator]

Originally posted by liberty@Jun 27 2006, 10:30 AM
I say if you are having sex for procreation, act like you are pregnant until you are. That means no drinking and smoking and drugging -legal or not. This way you avoid any one night of drinking questions. Granted some people get pregnant when they are not activly trying but if you are trying that is what I suggest :)
C
I agree wholeheartedly with this.

Sure, a few drinks may not affect the baby, but still...if you are trying to get pregnant, then I think you should watch yourself.

I'm not even friggin close to trying to have a baby(hell, I don't even have an SO...hahah), but I treat my body well in anticipation of being pregnant one day down the road. If I was actively trying to get pregnant right now, there is NO WAY I would be drinking....

(Alright Chels, OFF the soapbox now!)

[FitAussie]

I didnt know I was pregnant with my first baby and had a night out and had a few drinks, not lots but for me I was definitley tipsy as I wasnt used to it. She was fine, of course I dont smoke and didnt touch another drink.
This pregnancy, same thing happened (I was actively trying NOT to get pregnant). I went to a birthday, had two glasses of wine (again it felt like more, I rarely drink) and a rare night out at a club and had 2 or 3 drinks. It wouldve been in the first month. I felt terrible when I found out but so far everything seems fine. They say up to 2 drinks a day is safe but hell there is no way I would do that!
I wont touch alcohol at all during pregnancy once I know. Its not worth it. The time it can be most harmful is in the first weeks of pregnancy.

[freckles]

Originally posted by taniea19@Jun 28 2006, 10:40 AM
I don't think it would do anything at all. What hurts a growing fetus is exposure to it repeately. Whne I was abut 3 months I wad 2 glasses of wine on thanksgiving. She was fine.

Tanya
... If only this were true. My sil has a baby with Fetal Alchol Effects. She thought that 3 drinks on her wedding night wouldn't hurt the baby :( She only drank that one night during the whole pregancy. She will never forgive herself. It is like playing russian roulette with your baby's health.

If you're trying to get preggers.... just don't drink - that simple :)

[colo1278]

Originally posted by freckles+Jul 2 2006, 05:04 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (freckles @ Jul 2 2006, 05:04 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-taniea19@Jun 28 2006, 10:40 AM
I don&#39;t think it would do anything at all. What hurts a growing fetus is exposure to it repeately. Whne I was abut 3 months I wad 2 glasses of wine on thanksgiving. She was fine.

Tanya
... If only this were true. My sil has a baby with Fetal Alchol Effects. She thought that 3 drinks on her wedding night wouldn&#39;t hurt the baby :( She only drank that one night during the whole pregancy. She will never forgive herself. It is like playing russian roulette with your baby&#39;s health.

If you&#39;re trying to get preggers.... just don&#39;t drink - that simple :) [/b][/quote]
how awful&#33; my hubbs and I are currently TTC and your story just made me decide to switch from "occasional drink" to none now.

If you don&#39;t mind me asking, what exactly are the effects? Is the baby learning disabled, physically handicapped, etc?

[freckles]

Originally posted by colo1278+Jul 2 2006, 04:24 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (colo1278 &#064; Jul 2 2006, 04:24 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'>
Originally posted by freckles@Jul 2 2006, 05:04 PM
<!--QuoteBegin-taniea19@Jun 28 2006, 10:40 AM
I don&#39;t think it would do anything at all. What hurts a growing fetus is exposure to it repeately. Whne I was abut 3 months I wad 2 glasses of wine on thanksgiving. She was fine.

Tanya
... If only this were true. My sil has a baby with Fetal Alchol Effects. She thought that 3 drinks on her wedding night wouldn&#39;t hurt the baby :( She only drank that one night during the whole pregancy. She will never forgive herself. It is like playing russian roulette with your baby&#39;s health.

If you&#39;re trying to get preggers.... just don&#39;t drink - that simple :)
how awful&#33; my hubbs and I are currently TTC and your story just made me decide to switch from "occasional drink" to none now.

If you don&#39;t mind me asking, what exactly are the effects? Is the baby learning disabled, physically handicapped, etc?[/b][/quote]
Well, right now the only effects are physical - she has some facial characteristics of a child with FAS - eye folds, and malformed ears. Too early to tell if she will have any learning or physical disabilities.

The thing with Fetal Alchohol is there is no way to rule out if a child has been affected by alcohol. A child may show no physical symptoms at birth, but later in life may present with learning difficulties such as dyslexia or long-term memory problems. A child may also have undetected heart problems. That is why it is so maddening to hear parents say, "I drank and my baby is fine." Physically the child may look perfect... but down the road there may be problems.

[Tina]

Originally posted by freckles+Jul 2 2006, 01:04 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (freckles @ Jul 2 2006, 01:04 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-taniea19@Jun 28 2006, 10:40 AM
I don&#39;t think it would do anything at all. What hurts a growing fetus is exposure to it repeately. Whne I was abut 3 months I wad 2 glasses of wine on thanksgiving. She was fine.

Tanya
... If only this were true. My sil has a baby with Fetal Alchol Effects. She thought that 3 drinks on her wedding night wouldn&#39;t hurt the baby :( She only drank that one night during the whole pregancy. She will never forgive herself. It is like playing russian roulette with your baby&#39;s health.

If you&#39;re trying to get preggers.... just don&#39;t drink - that simple :) [/b][/quote]
That&#39;s so sad :(

[liberty]

some people consider the numerous cases of adhd and add in children to be the "middle-class" fetal alcohol syndrome, effecting those kids whose moms had one or two drinks, here or there. My husband went to an FAS&#092;FAE conference where they learned that the facial appearaence for FAS occurs on the 19th day after conception so you can drink just that one day and the child will have the appearence of a more strongly effected child. I agree that there are many people that say they drank and their child is "fine" (not the accidental drinking mentioned on this site) and in reality there are uinseen issues or issues they blame on something else. No amount is safe, do your best ladies :)
C

[lynne12]

She had three drinks and the baby was born with FAS? :wth:

I remember my girlfriend just 14 years ago (her kid is now 14) had her ob-gyn telling her that it was ok to have a drink of wine every week. She did an her kid is fine. I&#39;m not advocating that b/c I do think it&#39;s out-dated advice to say the least and irresponsible.

However I just think three drinks during the entire pregnancy and having a kid with FAS sounds awful &#33; :eek: Think about back to when our Mom&#39;s had us - there was little research about FAS back then and i know many pregnant women back then had an occasional drink during pregnancy.

Then again, I didn&#39;t drink during my pregnancies. With my first I didn&#39;t know I was pregnant and had a few drinks (two glasses of wine to be exact) on my birthday - a week later I found out. It was a surprise to say the least &#33;

[colo1278]

Seems like such a game of chance... my girlfriend and I were just saying the other day how it&#39;s amazing her husband and my mom both are such intelligent, non-disabled people considering both moms were alcoholics and heavy smokers.

well, like I said before, after reading all this, not a drop for me, even while ttc.

[freckles]

Originally posted by lynne12@Jul 4 2006, 07:34 PM
She had three drinks and the baby was born with FAS? :wth:

I remember my girlfriend just 14 years ago (her kid is now 14) had her ob-gyn telling her that it was ok to have a drink of wine every week. She did an her kid is fine. I&#39;m not advocating that b/c I do think it&#39;s out-dated advice to say the least and irresponsible.

However I just think three drinks during the entire pregnancy and having a kid with FAS sounds awful &#33; :eek: Think about back to when our Mom&#39;s had us - there was little research about FAS back then and i know many pregnant women back then had an occasional drink during pregnancy.

Then again, I didn&#39;t drink during my pregnancies. With my first I didn&#39;t know I was pregnant and had a few drinks (two glasses of wine to be exact) on my birthday - a week later I found out. It was a surprise to say the least &#33;
Fetal alcohol has different degrees... her child has &#39;Fetal Alcohol effects&#39;, meaning she only some of the problems associated with FAS. And yes, there are children born to alcoholic mothers that have absolutely no symptoms. Hardly seems fair. Like I said, it&#39;s a total crapshoot. Doctors that advocate one or two drink also need to be slapped. Probably the ones that got their doctorate with a &#39;just passing&#39; grade. :dry:

[lynne12]

Originally posted by freckles+Jul 5 2006, 05:14 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (freckles @ Jul 5 2006, 05:14 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-lynne12@Jul 4 2006, 07:34 PM
She had three drinks and the baby was born with FAS?* * :wth:

I remember my girlfriend just 14 years ago (her kid is now 14) had her ob-gyn telling her that it was ok to have a drink of wine every week.* She did an her kid is fine.* I&#39;m not advocating that b/c I do think it&#39;s out-dated advice to say the least and irresponsible.

However I just think three drinks during the entire pregnancy and having a kid with FAS sounds awful &#33;* :eek:* Think about back to when our Mom&#39;s had us - there was little research about FAS back then and i know many pregnant women back then had an occasional drink during pregnancy.

Then again, I didn&#39;t drink during my pregnancies. With my first I didn&#39;t know I was pregnant and had a few drinks (two glasses of wine to be exact) on my birthday - a week later I found out.* It was a surprise to say the least &#33;
Fetal alcohol has different degrees... her child has &#39;Fetal Alcohol effects&#39;, meaning she only some of the problems associated with FAS. And yes, there are children born to alcoholic mothers that have absolutely no symptoms. Hardly seems fair. Like I said, it&#39;s a total crapshoot. Doctors that advocate one or two drink also need to be slapped. Probably the ones that got their doctorate with a &#39;just passing&#39; grade. :dry: [/b][/quote]
Freckles your story is just unbelievable&#33; It floors me that three drinks could do FA effects - it&#39;s just awful. And, you&#39;re right, it IS a crapshoot. Not something to fool around with. I&#39;m so sorry to hear about how it&#39;s affected your family.

Yeah, my girlfriend&#39;s doctor, even 14 years ago, sounds like a moron. Even back then, I can&#39;t believe that a doctor would say 1 drink a week is ok. But he did and she drank, once a week.

I once read that if the mom is drinking and feels a &#39;buzz&#39; the baby in her is basically "passed out". Makes sense&#33;